At the start of the year, my resolution was to be the biggest pain in the ass that I could be. Now that sounds odd but let me explain why.
For as long as I could remember, I’ve had to deal with people who are rude or mean and I’m expected to be the bigger person. I’m supposed to just let them say what they want to me and it’s okay.
I can’t stand having people tell me how they think I should live my life since for most of my life I’ve had family doing that for me. So when people come around being like “you should do xyz” it upsets me. Here’s the thing though- it’s never to help me.
Take for example my uncle who’s helped me set up my blog. His words were “you should get a domain”. Why did I listen to him? Because he spoke to me like an adult and never forced me to get a domain. There was no “you should get a domain because no one would take you seriously as a blogger” (which is true but I know certain people who would say that in a totally condescending way).
All this is to say that I don’t do well with people telling me what to do when they’re using a condescending tone. I generally don’t do well with people telling me what to do but the condescending tone just worsens it. Anyone on one such occasion when someone decided to be both mean to me and tell me what to do, I snapped.
Sure it wasn’t that person’s fault (though God knows I was furious) that they were unable to articulate themselves in a polite, non-condescending way or that I was now fed up of people telling me what to do(I’m turning 21- Can I not make my own decisions?).
But my response to that person’s rudeness was that I simply walked out the room whenever they entered it and I refused to speak to them for weeks.
Except here’s the thing, while my family supported me in my anger with that person which made me feel better, I would go home every night and cry.
I felt horrible for treating someone like that. It was just so cruel.
And yet this is someone who had always picked on me over and over again. In my mind I thought they deserved my anger. They also didn’t know I was angry or if they did, they didn’t care. But it didn’t stop me from feeling like shit.
So I caved. Out of the blue I made a comment one day to the person. I remember reading somewhere that you can’t control how someone treats you but you can control how you react.
Sure I had family that agreed that my feelings were justified and that made me feel better. But being rude and petty didn’t sit well with me.
Yes I would love to be an ass to everyone who is an ass to me. But I can’t.
Honestly I don’t even know how they do it. I tried for one day to get back at someone and all I accomplished was making myself cry. I have no idea how people like that sleep at night.
How do you deal with people who are rude for no reason?
The first thing I did when I got my tablet was download apps and games until I had finished all my data. My app obsession still hasn’t faded (nor has my knack for finishing my data long before the end of the month) but I know now what apps are helpful for college. Below I list down some apps I’ve found super-helpful for college.
1) Pinterest – this is where the majority of my data goes. Pinterest is perfect for productivity tips, pictures of hot TV stars and pretty much anything in between. Use it as a stress reliever or to find tips on writing an essay. There’s nothing that isn’t on Pinterest.
2) Evernote- More often than not, I have notes scattered all over the place. Evernote helps me to organise notes according to subject and year. I also use Evernote to help me organise my writing drafts. A definite must for any college student.
3) Any.do- I adore this app so very much. Basically it’s a to-do list app that always displays what you need to do, under your notifications. You can organise items based on categories such as work and personal. You can list everything from errands to meetings. Pure perfection!
4) My Study Life- This app allows you to create your timetable and reminds you 15 mins before your class starts. It also allows you to list your assignments, homework and revision. My Study Life gives you no excuse to not be a perfect student.
5) Amazon Kindle- Whether you’re storing your novels or your textbooks, the Kindle app is great to have since it takes up far less space than an actual book.
Feel free to share your favorite apps below (so that I may try them out myself).
I would like to start by pointing out that everyone is different and everyone has different ways of doing things. You may not agree with my tips but it’s vital that you know what works for you and what doesn’t. Kay, here we go!
1) Write notes instead of typing them- writing notes helps you to remember them better. Also if you write instead of type there’s less chance of you being distracted by Facebook on your laptop.
2) Record notes so you don’t forget/fall asleep- I love recording my notes. It’s like having a PVR for lectures. You can listen to the recordings whenever you want as well as have a copy of precisely what the lecturer is looking for in essays and projects.
3) Take a rough draft first- Nobody has time for a perfect set of notes especially when you’re in the lecture. Write a rough set of notes that you are able to understand. You can clarify it later and make it look pretty. My notes always start off as a bunch of illegible words and some very neatly written reminders of how I want to sleep. No that’s not a joke.
4) Use colour- when you’re rewriting your notes use colour to make themes stand out. For my Human Resources class I had two different colours for the work that was tested as a question and the work tested as an essay.
5) Make sure that YOU understand- whether your notes are plain or coloured, neat or horrifying the most important thing is that you’re able to understand them. These are your notes and when exam time rolls around you’re the one who needs to be able to understand them.
What is your go-to guide for writing notes?
This video has recently come to my attention. It shows a driver who tries to intimidate another vehicle off the road and ends up almost causing an accident. Here’s why the video pisses me off:
I have a eighteen-year-old cousin who’s missing out on his first semester at college because he was involved in an accident. I would gladly give anything and everything to not have him in such a position or even for the whole thing to be his fault- atleast that way I can say that he deserves it. But it isn’t.
A bakkie driver overtook a bus and hit my cousin’s car. My cousin was unconscious while his best friend, the passenger seated in the front was dead on impact.
For a long, painful week, my family and I waited uncertain of his condition. He woke up soon after the accident but was unable to stop shaking. His jaw was broken as well as his neck. His heart was bruised and there was a bleed in his brain.
All these injuries simply because someone chose to overtake on a road without being able to see if his way was clear or not.
My cousin is recovering from his jaw surgery but it frustrates me that he’s so badly injured and has lost his friend over such a silly mistake.
I would love to blame the bakkie driver and a part of me does(especially since he was unlicensed, drove with fake number plates and his family insists on spreading the word that it was my cousin’s fault). But the thing is that this is a mistake anyone could make. To me it seems like common sense to NOT overtake a vehicle if you can’t see the oncoming lane. Apparently it isn’t the same to everyone else. I know this because everytime I stop behind a vehicle and am unable to overtake because I can’t see the next lane, I have people honk at me impatiently or just overtake.
When you drive a car, you’re using a vehicle that may or may not hurt others around you. It’s for that reason that people need to learn how to drive, go for a driving test and learn the rules of the road. Driving is no small thing. It can actually be really dangerous. I spent about R4000 on learning to drive. I had 40 lessons for six months because I knew I didn’t want to be a danger on the road. When I took my driving test, I wanted to know what I was doing.
So it amazes me how easily people take these risks. You can kill someone with your impatience. And it literally would not kill you to drive with caution and not take risks.
We’re supposed to learn the rules of the road for a reason. We’re also supposed to obey those rules. It isn’t fair that lives are lost, people are injured or property is damaged simply because of some recklessness.
1) Netflix and chill (obvs)
4) Reading a book that isn’t for English class
5) Watching the crime shows on TV
6) Playing with my dog
7) Playing Candy Crush
8) Shopping online
9) Stalking social media sites
What would you rather do than attend classes/wait for classes?
Rachel Morgan is having a giveaway for the following books:
Throne of Glass, by Sarah J Maas
Graceling, by Kristin Cashore
Cinder, by Marissa Meyer
Daughter of Smoke and Bone, by Laini Taylor
Interested? Enter the competition here
No I’m not blogging about Valentine’s Day. Why? Because I don’t want to and because I don’t know what I would say. Instead I’m sharing a few of my favorite V-day posts. Enjoy! (And Happy Valentine’s Day)
Valentines day cards Hallmark should Make
Love Lessons From Friends
What Are College Women Really Doing on Valentines Day
Valentines Day Quotes
I have a weakness for romance novels and the authors below have some great reads. Here are my recommendations for romance books in the month of love. Because what else is better than curling up with a romance novel?
1) Colleen Hoover- Colleen Hoover writes the kind of books that leave you in hysterical tears because you’re so relieved to have a happy ending after so many feels. I recommend “Slammed” and “Ugly Love” as starters.
2) Gina Robinson- Gina Robinson writes New Adult and Adult novels. My favorite is the Reckless series.
3) Meg Cabot- Meg Cabot writes delights such as the Princess Diaries and Mediator series. Be sure to read her latest in the Mediator series, “Proposal” and” Remembrance” for Valentines Day
4) Sarah Dessen- Can you ever go wrong with a Dessen novel? No! I adored “Along for the Ride” and “Just Listen”
5) Rachel Morgan- Rachel Morgan zaps me into the world of her “Trouble” series. These contemporary romance books are an absolute pleasure to read. Get yourself a copy ASAP.
6) Lisa Kleypas- Lisa Kleypas is my firm favorite and I’ve read her books like thrice already. Her latest historical romance, “Cold-Hearted Rake” is perfect to curl up with on Valentines Day.
7) Nora Roberts- Nora Roberts is great at romance, mystery and the supernatural. Her “Circle” trilogy is great to read, reread and then reread again.
8) Jennifer Gracen- Jennifer Gracen is also a firm favorite of mine. I’m especially taken with “More Than You Know”.
9) Eileen Cook- I love Eileen Cook’s works which focus on everything from ghosts and frenemies to love and mysterious car crashes. Try out “The Almost Truth” for a cute v-day read.
November 9 by Colleen Hoover
My rating: 4 of 5 stars
This story has a sweet idea but falls flat towards the end. It seems like the characters are dragging out their romance simply because November 9 is a special day for them. If you look past that obvious flaw this is an amazing book, well-written with intriguing characters. Fallon and Ben have an instant connection and because she is moving away, decide to meet every year on November 9. However life gets in the way and as they grow, they struggle to keep to their arrangement.
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I detest cover letters. Is there anything more difficult to write? Thankfully, cover letters are one of those things that get easier to do with time. Before I’ve listed a short guide to what your cover letter should look like.
Address to who you’re writing
(it’s always a good idea to know who’s going to be receiving your application and then addressing them here. It shows that you have done your research on the business).
Paragraph 1: Introduce yourself. State your name, where you go to school and what you’re studying. State why you’re applying. Make sure you catch the readers attention so that he or she is eager to continue reading.
Paragraph 2: Highlight anything important you think they need to know. For example, have you have previous experience in this field?
Do you have a skill that makes you excellent for the job? EVERYTHING is important. Jobs teach you skills that can be used in any field.
Paragraph 3: Make it clear that you will be an asset to them. Whether it’s because you thrive on pressure and deadlines or because you have amazing qualifications, show the company that they should want to hire you.
I look forward to your response
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