Peter was one of my favorite colleagues- quiet, brilliant and never one for office drama. We didn’t talk much (fellow introverts, you get it), but one moment with me shifted my entire perspective on work and life.
In a team meeting, Peter casually mentioned he’d be unavailable the next day- his kid had a school concert.
At the time, this was shocking to me. In my previous role, you weren’t allowed to be there for your kid. It wasn’t something explicitly stated but showing up for your child was something that was reserved for emergencies only.
When Peter returned to work, he lit up talking about the concert and the breakfast he did with his kids that morning.
Eventually I found out Peter had once had a thriving international career. He gave it up to stay close to home and be present with his family. And he didn’t just seem okay with that choice- he seemed at peace. Peter was always so chill no matter what office fire we had that day.
Peter’s story has stuck with me for years. It was the first time that I realised that success doesn’t look the same to everyone. And maybe…just maybe the ultimate flex isn’t travel or the corner office. Maybe it’s just being there for your family?