The Practice Interview

One of my favourite interviews was for a job I didn’t even want.

I knew Company A from my childhood- they were a BPO that my mother worked at when I was a kid. I used to visit their offices every Saturday and my aunt- who also worked there- would leave snacks for me. My mother warned me against interviewing- being a former employee she was very aware of what their workloads were like- but I was curious about the role since it combined two Marketing roles (Red flag).

From the second I walked in, I knew I had no intention of taking the job but it made me so happy to be back in a BPO discussing the industry. I FELT SEEN!

About half an hour into the interview, we realised that the job wasn’t a fit but we still spent another half an hour chatting. I had forgotten how familiar and comfortable the BPO environment was to me. I may not have had snacks or a desk to myself (though they did offer me tea, coffee or something stronger) but it made me happy.

Ironically, I had left a BPO about 6 months prior because I wanted to experience another industry but being back in that environment was strangely comforting.

Leaving that interview, I couldn’t help but smile. While the job wasn’t a fit, the experience reminded me of how much I value environments where I feel seen and connected. Sometimes, revisiting old chapters of our lives can offer clarity about what truly matters to us.

Though I left the BPO world for a reason, this encounter reignited my appreciation for the industry and the sense of belonging it once gave me. It’s funny how life works—sometimes, the moments that don’t lead to a “yes” are the ones that remind us of who we are and where we’ve been.

Here’s to staying curious and open to the unexpected paths that shape our journeys.

I Accidentally Went into A Toxic Workplace

I had worked in Customer Care for a little over 3 years. It was not the best of environments but- I was going to quickly learn this- it wasn’t the worst either.

I was burnt out in my first Marketing role so when I was contacted by another company for a possible role, I took the interview.

But in my haste for change it appeared that I ignored several red flags.

  1. I was warned that there wasn’t any real processes in place in the environment. I had no idea to what extent they meant it. Any attempt to put in a process was ignored and so we always went back to scratch- no process. Fast forward a year later and it was still the same.
  2. The hiring manager was not an HR manager- it was the person hiring for the role. I thought he was picky and looking for someone who could do his role. Turns out the company never had an HR department. I had heard that they outsourced their HR function but whenever I needed HR there was never anyone there. When my role was made redundant I was provided with little to no support- and even my last salary seemed suspiciously low. I also didn’t get severance pay- something I had to follow up about for weeks before they finally paid me. Apparently they weren’t sure if severance pay applied to me- an issue that could have been easily resolved if they had an HR department to begin with.
  3. The hiring manager disappeared for days on end. This was something that followed me into the job. The manager would disappear and then come up with a list of instructions or a list of reasons why the work I did was incorrect (even though there were never any proper instructions or marketing briefs to begin with).
  4. I asked for a sample payslip but they were unable to provide one. Turns out that the company didn’t give regular payslips. I only learnt this two months in because everytime I asked for one, I got the run-around instead.
  5. The contract said that staff weren’t allowed to refuse overtime work on weekends on public holidays. I raised this and they said they didn’t work on public holidays or weekends but that was just their standard contract. Holding them in good faith, I signed anyway…only to later learn that other things on the contract was incorrect such as the date we get paid and the tasks I was responsible for.

Unfortunately all of this happened during a horrible job market. So no matter how hard I tried (and I started trying six months into the job), it was difficult for me to get a new job. Eventually I was made redundant and I cannot explain to you how happy it made me. Yeah, I may not have had a source of income but I had my mental health. And that is infinitely more valuable.

Book Review: The Silent Patient by Alex Michaelides

The Silent Patient by Alex Michaelides

My rating: 5 of 5 stars


When “The Silent Patient” first released, everyone who read it wouldn’t stop raving about it. At the time, I was struggling to read so I didnt bother to get a copy.
But when I found this in a secondhand didn’tbookstore, I knew I had to get it. Sure I had stopped reading for months but what if THIS was the book that would change all of that?
Unfortunately I dont think this has fixed my reading problem but this book was incredible!

“The Silent Patient” tells the story of Theo, a damaged psychotherapist who is a fan of Alicia’s artwork. Theo has been following Alicia’s story since the beginning- when she shot her husband five times in the face. No one knows why Alicia murdered her husband and she hasn’t spoken since that day.
Theo is determined to get Alicia to speak- to heal. But as time goes on Alicia remains silent. Desperate for answers, Theo resorts to speaking to the people in her life. He goes about the whole thing in a way a detective would. And the men in Alicia’s life do not like Theo’s meddling.

I spent an entire day with this book. I just had to know how it ended. This is a book that leaves you saying “WTF” when you’re done.



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How to Use a Starter Job to Your Advantage

There you are all bright and shiny and ready to make your mark on the working world! But then you land your first job and it’s nothing like you imagined. Or maybe you had to settle for the first opportunity that came you way (I’ve been there). No matter how awful your first job may seem to you. Here are a few tips on making the most of it:

1. Be Open to Learning Everything

You might not be interested in your first role but you’d be surprised by what you can learn from a starter job. I started off as a data capturer which helped me build speed on the PC for my first corporate role.

2. What are the Benefits?

Company culture? Office snacks? Learning opportunities? Figure out what the positives are and use them to your advantage. A starter job might not be what you want or in the field you want but this is a great opportunity to start to build your network.

3. Try Out a Side Project in Your Field

For me this was running a blog. Try to get experience in your field by either doing volunteer work (if and when you can) or ask if your job has something extra that you can assist with. My first steps into Marketing was assisting with Customer queries on Social Media. It was an interesting way to use my fast typing skills but it was such an advantage when I moved over to Marketing.

4. Take Advantage of any Training Opportunities

If there are any opportunities for further training, go for it! Developing your skills is a great way to figure out what works for you and what doesn’t. In my starter job, Business Admin courses were offered to a few employees who later moved from Data Capturing to Client Services. If your company offers to pay for training- even if it’s a small portion- consider giving it a go.

5. Note what your transferrable skills are

Hard-worker. Fast learner. Able to work well under pressure. These are skills you pick up in almost any job. What specific skill in your starter job are you able to use in another role? Identity these and add them to your CV.

A starter job might not be the job you initially wanted but making the most of it will serve your career well in the long-run.

Sunrise to Sunset: A Perfect Day in Umhlanga for Food Lovers

Umhlanga is one of my favourite spots to unwind. From the seaviews to the seafood, no matter your mood, Umhlanga has something for you. Here’s my itinerary for a perfect day in Umhlanga:

Kick Off Your Morning with Breakfast at Mary & Joe

Start your day with a relaxed breakfast at Mary & Joe, a local favourite known for its fresh coffee and hearty breakfast options. Whether you prefer a classic eggs benedict or a stack of fluffy pancakes, this spot will fuel you for the day ahead.

Mid-Morning Beach Stroll with an Iced Drink

Take a scenic walk along the Umhlanga Promenade, breathing in the fresh ocean air. Stop by a beachfront café to grab an iced drink- think iced lattes or tropical smoothies- and enjoy the views. This is also the perfect time to take a quick dip if the waves are calling!

There’s just something about the Umhlanga beach that melts away worries of the world.

Experience the Variety at The Village for Lunch

Have your pick with lunch at the village. You could choose to walk around and see what grabs your attention but some of my favourites are:

  • Ocean Basket: Like the name says, Ocean Basket has everything from fish and chips to sushi platters.
  • Steak & Ale: If you’re in the mood for a juicy burger or a hearty steak, this pub-style eatery won’t disappoint. They also have amazing customer service which really won me over.
  • El Patron: El Patron offers a variety of meals at great prices. They have pizza, burgers and even pastas.

Treat Yo Self at Ocean Mall

Ocean Mall is a huge mall that you could explore or simply just treat yourself to something sweet. Some great options for those who love sugary treats are Romano’s Ice Cream which offers gelato in a variety of flavours. You could also visit Hey Sweetie and indulge in both local and imported snacks.

Unwind with Cocktails and a View

You could head to the Pearls Mall (which has a fantastic view of the beach) for drinks or if you’re okay with a bit of a splurge, visit the Oyster Box hotel and go to the Lighthouse Bar. This classy setting is perfect for cocktails while you watch the sun set.

Dine Like a King

To wrap up your day, you can have dinner at any of the many options in the village but my recommendations are:

  • Butcher Block: While Butcher Block is known for expertly grilled steaks, I’ve tried their hake and chicken schnitzel and am a fan of both. Basically, it doesn’t look like Butcher Block goes wrong with anything.
  • Little Havana: A stylish bistro offering Cuban-inspired dishes with a South African twist. Their chimichurri steak or peri-peri prawns will leave you wanting more.

Whether you prefer casual cafés, fine dining, or beachfront treats, Umhlanga offers a foodie adventure at every turn. This is the kind of place where every bite becomes a memory and every meal feels like a celebration.

Book Review: Queen of Ruin by Tracy Banghart

Queen of Ruin by Tracy Banghart

My rating: 5 of 5 stars


I CANNOT believe it took me so long to finish this book. I also cannot believe I enjoyed it so much.
I started this book atleast thrice but was never in the right frame of mind to finish it. But I was stuck in bed this weekend so I thought “why not try again?”
And SUCCESS!!!
“Queen of Ruin” picks up shortly after “Grace and Fury” and sees the two sisters reunite…briefly. But with Asa now in power, the girls must come together to defend their families and country from his tyranny.
This book did a great job of recapping what happened (this was helpful since I couldn’t remember and since I kept starting and stopping this book before). It was amazing to see how both Serina and Nomi’s characters have developed and of course I wanted to know more about Malachi.
Once I started reading this last night, I could not stop. This is one of my favourite series and I’m sad there’s only two books.
I feel like there is definitely potential for more.
If you’re looking for the kind of book that makes you forget you are reading, give this series a try!



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Looking Back at Being the Oddball

Most days I cannot believe my job. I cannot believe I work in Marketing. I cannot believe writing is considered something you can do as a job. I cannot believe that I am listened to because I have a “voice” and “a story to tell”. It amazes me that I work in an environment where some days I am setting up goodie bags for staff and other days I am drinking vodka at a fancy bar. It is just bizarre. It also amazes me that I didn’t have to change myself for my lifestyle. I was just me and I fell into this amazing life. I found this post that I wrote many years ago, complaining about people judging other people’s life decisions.

I haven’t forgot how I had to fight for my job for years. I had to fight to write. It was considered a waste of time. I had to fight with family who thought I was wasting my life by taking a call center job (i.e the first place to hire me) and then staying there for years (something I did because no one else would hire me). I had to fight to study- the Marketing courses I wanted to try out were incredibly expensive but my dad was kind enough to lend me the money. I paid him back as soon as I could.

But even with all out that, I took my oddball ways and made it a part of a career I love. And that is something that I do not take for granted.

7 Secrets for Shopping Sales

I woke up this morning and saw a Facebook post from someone who had shopped the Edgars Red Hanger sale and got a pair of sneakers with 2 different sizes. I was horrified. Especially since I had shopped the sale and bought the same shoe. Fun fact- I had checked ALL my purchases except for that sneaker because I trusted the brand. Rookie mistake. Instantly I dove out of bed and started looking for my sneakers. Thankfully they matched. But this got me thinking about the sale itself. The environment was equal parts exciting and chaotic. There were people everywhere, the lines were long and I had an incident where I came home with jeans in the wrong size due to a mix-up on the cashier’s part.

The key to shopping sales is to put aside your emotions and think logically. Do NOT let anything or anyone sway you from a position of peace.

Here are a few tips for shopping a sale:

1. Ensure You’re Comfortable

This means your bladder is empty, you’re well-rested and you have already had a meal. I spent so long at the Red Hanger sale that I started to feel dizzy (and honestly I feel like that is why I never picked up on the jeans issue). Carry a snack if you need to but remember you want to ensure you are in optimal shape.

2. Do NOT Let Anyone Rush You

Whether it is a salesperson or a cranky child, do not let anyone rush you through this process. At the end of the day even if it is a sale, you’re still going to be paying money and you want to ensure that you’re getting the most value for your cash. If you have time to go through the store or the rack for a second time, do it. Few things upset me more than going home after a shopping trip bummed about missing something.

3. Make a List Beforehand

I keep a list on my phone of all items I intend to buy. That way when I go in-store and there’s a sale, I already have an idea of what I really want. This is a great way to prioritise your spending to ensure you don’t buy something that you don’t really need or may not actually want. Another great tip is to make a list of upcoming birthdays or Christmas presents that you need. That way you can get your gifts at a lower price.

4. Question Your Purchase

Will you use this? Where? How often? Asking these questions for each purchase helps to ensure that you’re actually buying things that you will use and preferably often. Sometimes we see the word “SALE” and get carried away. We buy things we wouldn’t usually. No judgement here. I am very guilty of this.

5. Come Up with a Strategy

Go really early or really late to avoid crowds. This means less people in the store and less of a hassle for parking. I say go really early or really late but honestly the best bet is that you get in early. The shelves would be neater, the shops will be emptier and you will be able to shop in a calmer manner. As an added bonus, if you take a friend with you, both of you can keep an eye out for good deals.

6. Set a Budget

I didn’t do this. God, I wish I had done this. Sales are great but credit card debt? Not so much. Set a budget beforehand so that you don’t run up a bill you can’t pay. Or a bill that you will be paying for months to come.

7. Check All Your Items

To avoid mix-ups like me and my jeans, check all of your items before you pay (and make sure you love all of them). Also check your items immediately after paying. If you can do this while still at the store or the mall, it’s better for you. It sucks to come home with all your great purchases only to find a flaw and than you need to trek back to the store. Worse if you shopped somewhere where sales items could not be returned.

Sales are exciting. By keeping a level head and following these tips, you can ensure that you get the best bargains without any stress. Do you have any secrets to shopping sales? Let me know below

Book Review: Freelance Like a Boss by Shea Karssing

Freelance Like a Boss: How to escape the 9–5 and take control of your life by Shea Karssing

My rating: 5 of 5 stars


Freelance Like a Boss covers everything you need to know to start your own freelancing business. From finding clients and determining your rates to taxes and ensuring you have enough income, this book was a treasure trove of knowledge.

Freelance Like a Boss is written in a funny, easy to understand manner and it feels like sitting down with a friend who is breaking down the ins and outs of freelancing.

That’s my official review. Now I shall proceed to share all of my deepest feelings for this book (Yes, I enjoyed myself THAT much).

I picked up a copy of this book as soon as I saw it was in store (Bookworm life hack- get you a bookstore that has great prices AND great Customer Service). I am not a person who buys regularly priced books, especially non-fiction. But prior to the book release, I had read the synopsis and checked out the author’s website so at the very least, I knew she had great writing skills.
I came home, realised that the book was thinner than I had expected and was incredibly disappointed. (Now keep in mind that I am someone who has recently struggled to complete books because of her short attention span. So I had no business being disappointed. The shorter the book, the easier it would be for me to finish).
But when I started skimming through the page of contents, it looked like the book covered everything that I had ever wondered about. There are countless online resources for freelancing. But I have never found any that are tailored to South Africans. And as a digital marketer, it bugged me. I had worked with freelancers. I had freelanced for a short while. But while the lifestyle appealed to me, there were so many things that I knew nothing about that I just couldn’t justify going back to freelancing.
I started reading and for the next few days, this book was glued to my side. Literally. It came with me to the bathroom in the mornings as I brushed my teeth. I read it at breakfast and then picked it up again at lunch. I kept it on my desk to read it again after work. The chapters are pretty short so I was able to complete them without my short attention span getting in the way. It’s been a while since I enjoyed a book this much- especially a non-fiction one.
Once it was done, I had that feeling of accomplishment that comes with finishing a book and surprisingly, I don’t have any questions about freelancing.
If you’re interested in freelancing and have no clue where to start, this is the book for you. You’re definitely going to walk away having learnt something.



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7 Red Flags to Watch For in a Manager

Just as there are many different types of managers and management styles, there are also so many different signs of a toxic manager. It can be tough because while micromanagement is talked about most often, bad management exists beyond that. Here are 7 red flags that might have you reconsidering your manager.

1. Talks about Others Behind Their Back:

No decent manager should be discussing their staff with other staff members. EVER! It’s unprofessional. Whenever a manager has an issue with an employee, it should be discussed with that specific employee only and not a third party.

2. Refuses to listen to feedback

Not matter how minor the feedback is, if your manager refuses to listen to anything besides their own opinion, that’s a sign to be cautious. I worked for someone who wanted to have a say in every little thing. I didn’t think of it as an issue until I reminded them once of something they said once and changed their mind on last-minute and they refused to accept responsibility for it.

3. Favouritism

If you notice that your manager is the type to play favourites, watch out. This can work out badly for employees whether or not they’re the favourite. The favourite is a difficult position to be in and so is the extreme opposite- the one who the manager absolutely cannot stand.

4. Poor Communication Skills

Does your manager speak exclusively in buzzwords? Is your manager able to explain things in a clear and concise manner? Smart people speak simply. Incompetent people tend to prefer to use buzzwords or big words to make themselves sound smarter than they really are.

5. Allergic to Growth of Any Kind

One of the ways I like to assess a manager is their reaction when I say that I am learning something new. Some managers are perplexed when I study something that isn’t related to my work. Some are excited and some are just against it (even if this studying doesn’t happen during working hours). It’s those who are against any kind of learning that worry me. (And so far this little test hasn’t steered me wrong).

6. Micromanagement

This is one that we all know about. If your manager has trouble giving up control and needs to know every little detail of every task you’re working on, this is a red flag. Some micromanagers can be managed by you keeping them in the loop and eventually earning their trust. Some micromanagers just get worse with time.

7. Not Managing at All

This is a type of red flag that I don’t see discussed often enough. While macromanagement (hands off management) is a management technique, when taken too far, this has negative consequences such as deadlines not being met, lack of clarity on goals and just general disorganisation and chaos.

What other red flags have you encountered? How do you track if a manager might be a problem? Let me know below.

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