The Toxic Manager I Just Met

We all heard about the micromanager…But did you know there was someone just as toxic who has a completely different management style?

Ladies and gentleman, I give you the macromanager.

Honestly I didn’t even know this was a thing until I met my first macromanager. They said and I quote “I’m not like other managers. I’m a cool manager”.

This “cool” behaviour lasted until staff didn’t do things the way the manager wanted them done. Then manager would step in with more detailed instructions (which should have been included the first time) or redo the whole thing themselves. It wasn’t very pleasant but I understood it. This was someone who didn’t come from a Marketing background and it was clear that their Marketing knowledge- especially when it came to running a department- was limited.

But over time, the toxic behaviour started to morph into something more malicious. I watched as projects were taken away and handed to a specific individual and the manager started lashing out at the staff. And yet, no one stepped in. I watched the manager try to micromanage stuff or blame them for things not being done…when the obstacle in the way turned out to repeatedly be approval- aka the step the macromanager was responsible for.

Eventually shit hit the fan and two staff resigned while an additional two were made redundant. At this point people tried to raise the issue with the HOD. Who defended the manager. And defended the macromanager again. And again. And again.

I had seen this play out. The last time a HOD defended a toxic manager, it didn’t work out. The HOD ended up dismantling an entire team in order to keep the manager in their position. The good news- for the toxic manager in this specific scenario is that she ended up running a team. The bad news- for the team and the business- is that she now manages a bunch of people who are horrible at their job but very friendly with the toxic manager.

I had a feeling that things were going to play out the same way with the macromanager. But time will tell (and of course, I’ll come back here to share).

Welcome to the Real World: Plug and Play Employees

The months after I was made permanent were pretty uneventful. I was made permanent in September. Had really bad burnout and had intense pressure in October. The other employees believed that around October onwards, management tried to get staff fired so that there was less competition for bonuses in December. I would later learn that ALL industries felt the slump that time of the year.

Anyway sometime around November, my manager got the idea in her head that she wanted “Plug and Play employees”. I didn’t understand what that meant but basically she wanted her team to have full working knowledge of the entire Customer Care department.

At the time it wasn’t uncommon for the different teams to step in and help each other. So for example, the Fulfilment team could work on the Customer Care inbound line or Customer Care could audit calls. More often than not, it was Fulfilment helping Customer Care Inbound and Quality Assurance helping Sales Admin (aka the data capturing team). My manager wanted to equip her staff to work in any department. So she divided the team into smaller teams and had people learn different skills. I was in awe and fascinated by Customer Care but I knew I could never speak on the phone. So when I was assigned to do data capturing for the Fufilment team, I agreed. My job was to activate simcards and I was great at it. I was incredibly fast on the computer and that showed in my activation numbers.

By the time, December rolled around, our team was doing activations, data capturing and even assisting on the Customer Care line. It was amazing and I am still so proud of what we accomplished. Towards the middle part of December, the Quality Assurance manager requested that we assist her with auditing calls which we did. Our team was doing all the things. Which was great because what we didn’t know was that the team was about to be dissolved.

The business had decided that they didn’t need a data capturing team and Sales agents should capture their own sales. Our team was split. Some people went back to the sales floor as verifiers while the rest were absorbed into other Customer Care departments.

I stayed in Activations because of my speed on the computer. I found this interesting because this speed was something that I learnt from years of playing on the computer. I used to pretend to be working in an office. I used to try to write. In fact I did write a novel at 12. And now instead of getting my dream job in Journalism, I was working in an office. Odd how things work out.

I was happy that I wasn’t leaving my team but I felt a tiny twinge of regret. Why hadn’t I asked to learn Customer Care? I was always amazed that these people could talk on the phone but I was too scared to ask for the opportunity to learn.

Looking back on this, it’s funny that I was so scared. 2022 Me would be scared and do it anyway. But I guess that’s growth.

5 Tips to Shop Black Friday Online Safely

Shopping Black Friday deals online instead of in-store means you get to avoid the crowds and the rush. You can start shopping as early as midnight and you don’t even need to leave the comfort of your home. If you’re planning to shop online this Black Friday, here are a few tips to help you make the most of the experience:

1. Shop Websites that You’re Familiar With

Black Friday is not the time for you to start shopping with a new retailer. Stick to businesses that you know and trust. Also ensure that the website itself is secure. To check this, make sure that the link starts with “https” and has a locked symbol in the URL bar.

2. Ensure your Password is Strong (and original)

It’s easier to use the same password for every site but that also makes it easier for hackers. Before Black Friday, set up online accounts for the stores you want to buy from. If you already have accounts, change the passwords to something strong and difficult to guess. Make a note of this new password the old-fashioned way- in a book.

3. Check that Your Devices are Secure

Make sure the security software on all your devices is up to date. That way if you start your shopping experience on your pc or laptop and then move to your cellphone you know no matter where you shop from, you’re safe.

4. Think About the Offer Before Giving Your Details

Sales generally have us throwing all away all sense of caution. Black Friday is no different. Before finalizing your purchase, think it through. Does the deal sound too good to be true? Are there any red flags? You’re safer without the item than risking a scammy purchase.

5. Be Cautious About What You Click On

Pay attention to pop-up ads or social media ads. Ensure that when you click on a link, it’s for a legitimate site as well as a site that is secured.

Will you be shopping Black Friday in-person or online? Let me know below.

Book Review: One Night Only by Catherine Walsh

One Night Only by Catherine Walsh

My rating: 4 of 5 stars


Sarah prefers one night stands to actual relationships. Due to some past trauma, she has closed herself off to love and emotions. But when she wakes up one morning to see an especially good-looking guy in her bed- a guy who is interested in having breakfast with her- Sarah congratulates herself mentally on her catch…and then sends the guy away.
That guy turns out to be Declan, the best man at her best friend’s wedding.
Sarah is horrified but manages to pull through. After all it is her best friends’ special day. Sarah is sure that once the wedding is over she will have nothing to do with Declan.
However Declan keeps popping up in her life repeatedly and Sarah is forced to confront the fact that she might want to keep this one night stand for a few more nights.
This seemed more drawn out than “The Rebound” and honestly I didn’t care about the Ireland wedding. I did however love Declan and really enjoyed scenes that included him.
This was a fun read that I enjoyed. I am giving this four stars because while this was great, The Rebound is still my favourite!



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Fiction Friday: Book Review- The Rebound by Catherine Walsh

The Rebound by Catherine Walsh

My rating: 5 of 5 stars


When Abby loses her fiancé, her house and her job, she escapes home to Ireland.
Shortly after her arrival she meets a mysterious and attractive stranger. Sparks fly between the two of them however it isn’t long until Abby realizes that the mysterious hottie is her neighbor, Luke. Luke who she grew up with. Luke who she barely paid attention to but who certainly remembered her.
Firstly this was an incredible well-written book. I’ve been struggling to get into reading again but within a few seconds of reading this book I was hooked!
Secondly I kept highlighting sentences because there were so many parts that I related to.
I loved the character of Abby and found her really relatable. All the characters here are incredibly well fleshed out. The plot is intriguing. I couldn’t put the book down. A little bit of rom com was exactly what I needed and I enjoyed myself immensely



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Welcome to the Real World: The Importance of Playing the Game

If you’re new here, this is a pretty awful way to ease your way into my blog. “Welcome to the Real World” is a series detailing my early working years. The idea is to impart some wisdom and laugh at my mistakes.

You can find the full series here. However for a quick recap, I started my data capturing job and things were good. I was concerned about the fact that I was a temp on a 3 month contract but I worked really hard and I was sure that it would pay off. Let’s all laugh together.

I was young and had no clue that how hard I worked had nothing to do with my promotion. But I was about to. I was going to learn that lesson the hard way.

When I started in March, there were a few other temps. There was a man in his 30s, a girl who had just finished high school and a older female. The only person who worked at the same pace as me was the man in his 30s. However I started work at 7AM every day (my working hours were 8AM to 5PM). I felt like it could be seen that I was a hard worker. About a month or so after I joined, a guy around my age joined. He was able to keep up with my pace. But he did one thing I didn’t. He befriended the boss.

When it came time to renew our contracts, all of the people who started with me got their contracts extended for another 3 months. I was incredibly surprised when the same thing happened to me. I knew that I was faster than them. So why now were we given the same treatment?

When it came time to renew the contract of the guy who befriended the boss, he was made permanent immediately. I was furious. So I stopped working as hard as I did. I was called into countless meetings where management tried to figure out what the problem was. I replied with I didn’t understand what the problem was. I didn’t understand why now I was no longer as fast as the other guy.

But I knew what the problem was. I just didn’t know how to verbalize it. I didn’t know how to verbalize that I felt demotivated by what had happened.

Thing is, the working world is a game. Who you know matters more than what you know. I should have known that. After all, the main reason I got the job was because my aunt set me up with the interview.

The guy who was made permanent actually stole work from others (i.e everyone had an Excel spreadsheet assigned to them and he would go into these sheets, copy the information that he needed to capture and add it to his spreadsheet).

Management defended him and said he “took initiative”. I was shocked by I kept my head down and worked at my new, slower pace.

After my second round of 3 months, I was made permanent. A vacancy opened in a different department and the guy applied for it. He didn’t tell the manager who he befriended which brought me so much joy.

The manager had no choice but to let him go but he was not happy. The manager then came up with a new rule. If you’re applying for a job in another team or another department, you need to tell a manager.

I’m not sure what the point of this rule was but when the time came for me to leave, I made good use of that rule.

But that’s a story for another day.

September TBR

I haven’t done a TBR post in forever! I also haven’t picked up a book in forever. I hate being an adult. Anyway I have lots of great books- some from publishers and some that I have purchased myself. Here is my ambitious September TBR.

  1. The Subtle Act of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson- For reasons unknown to me, I ordered this journal from Jonathan Ball publishers. Two pages in, I was hooked and had to go get the novel itself.
  2. Twisted Love by Ana Huang- I requested this from Jonathan Ball publishers. I heard lots of great things about this book on BookTok but personally it has not grabbed my attention.
  3. When Women were Dragons by Kelly Barnhill-This was another book from Jonathan Ball publishers but this one I love. I actually only read two lines but it grabbed me instantly. I haven’t finished it because I feel like this is the sort of book where you need to block out time in your schedule and sit down with snacks.
  4. A Good Girl’s Guide to Murder by Holly Jackson- I have the entire boxset that was given to me by Jonathan Ball publishers. Again I feel this is a series to binge and I don’t the time for that. (Can I just quit my job for a month and read all the books?)
  5. Family of Liars/We Were Liars by E. Lockhart- These are books that look like they can be finished in one setting but at this point the hype is so great that I am terrified that I will be disappointed.

Have you read any of these books? What does your September TBR look like? Let me know below

I haven’t been blogging as regularly as I should. I started a new job and there was a health scare (getting older is not fun. Everything is an issue. I went to the doc for an ear infection and came back with a 24-hour blood pressure machine). I’ve also been feeling a little burned out.

So I did the responsible thing and booked time off work. I go on leave this week Friday and I cannot wait. Of course in typical me fashion I already planned a list of things to do, books to read, shows/movies to watch and I’m really excited to get started.

The idea is basically to immerse myself in all the fictional worlds in an attempt to escape the real world. I’m also hoping once this is done, I’ll have tons of blog content. Wish me luck

Fiction Friday: Seven Lies by Elizabeth Kay

Seven Lies by Elizabeth Kay

My rating: 5 of 5 stars


I’ve been having trouble paying attention to books (thank you, TikTok. Again).
Jane and Marnie have been best friends since high school. They tell each other everything. But when Marnie falls in love with a douchebag, Jane doesn’t admit that she hates him.
But this small lie eventually snowballs until Marnie moves in with and then marries the pretentious ass.
Jane wants to see her best friend happy but why him? (I asked myself this several times over the course of this novel. Marnie’s husband is a slimy pig. Never have I ever hated a fictional character so quickly).
Eventually, Marnie’s husband (sorry, he is not worth remembering. Not even for this review) dies and Jane feels guilty. Maybe if she had spoken up sooner things would be different.
Like I said before, I absolutely loathed this man. So hats off to Elizabeth Kay for making him so hateable.
This was a really well-written book that I read in one go. This was such a rollercoaster of a novel but I loved every second!



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Page to Screen Review: Along for the Ride

Along for the Ride, based on the novel by Sarah Dessen, tells the story of insomniac (and Type A) Auden who goes to visit her dad at a seaside town. While there she encounters the mysterious Eli. Eli is also an insomniac and it isn’t long before the two start to bond.

I definitely think this was worth a watch. I read the book as a high school graduate in that weird in-between phase where uni hadn’t started yet but the days were just a blur. I loved it. I loved the movie too and I think it stayed pretty true to the book.

My only issue (and honestly this really does feel like a “Me problem” is that I hadn’t realised that I had basically grown up to be Auden. Whatever. Go watch this movie if you haven’t already.

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